This month I want to tell the story of Tracy, a young girl of fourteen who lost her self-belief and how she found it again. She had moved in with her boyfriend and was not going to school. She sat in front of me with her head down, face flushed slightly red and began to tell me how she sould "ave anybody in the school" and how everyone got scared when she "went off on one". She said to me "I don't see the point of school, and I don't get on with the teachers or my mum." Then she began to tell me the story of how she lived in the wrong part of town, had the wrong trainers  and would never amount to anything.

She told me "I don't trust nobody, not even myself when I get the rage."

So I said to her "what do you trust and remember a time when you had that feeling of trust." She looked around the room then told me "I have just got a white germnan shepherd puppy. He looks after me." I asked her how she feels as she imagines her puppy, where the feeling starts and where it moves to. Then I ask her to imagine the situations where she used to go into a rage and have the feeling of trusting that her german shepherd is there to support her. She tells me that the feeling has changed and she now feels "really calm and chilled out". I ask her what is possible for her now that she feels calm and chilled out. She tells me "what I really want is to get a job working with animals" and decides to move back in with her mum and go back to school. And that is what she did.

You can use this technique to change any anger that gets in the way of doing what you want into self-belief so please enjoy